The first months of 2018 have been the busiest that I can remember. January was taken up by finishing the Sew Witchy book manuscript for a February 1 deadline. And then February and March saw me:
Sewing up a box of projects from the book to get out to my publisher for a cover photo shoot (deadline April 1)
Editing the manuscript per editorial input (deadline April 2)
Prepping to vend at C2E2 (deadline April 6)
Taking photos for the book (deadline April 16)
At one point I was awake and working for 48 hours to meet the photo deadline. And in between my professional obligations I had to fit in being present for my family, dealing with the loss of my house, and defending myself in court (along with the custody issue, my ex is petitioning the court to punish me for losing the house, including asking for me to be incarcerated). Fun times.
Now, after meeting my last deadline, I have found myself suffering from temporal whiplash. As soon as I uploaded the photos we climbed into the Jeep and headed to a camper owned by friends for a weekend of campfires and whiskey. I spent a lot of time Saturday and Sunday just sleeping.
Come Monday morning, after I had gotten Charlotte off to school, I found myself at sort of a loss of what to do. I cleaned the kitchen and family room. I did the dishes and made dinner. I spent a lot of time thinking about all the stuff I had to do and realizing that I had plenty of time to do it in. The rest of the week has been the same. I have stuff to do. But there is no urgency.
It’s a strange position to be in. In fact it weirds me out not to have a deadline constantly pushing at me. I don’t have to rush my kids through bedtime so that I can get back to work. I’m not staying up until three in the morning sewing. Right now my To Do list is full of items like “make dinner” and “pack up one shelf of books”.
A friend posted a link to the article “This is the Reason So Many Unbound Women Fear They’re Lazy” on Facebook the other day. Reading through it, I found myself nodding in agreement. I’ve spent so much of my life trying to fill my every waking hour to justify my existence, especially once I stopped working outside of the house. Shifting to a focus more on what I and my family need done to serve our lives is a big, scary step. Many times throughout these first few days I have found myself sitting down with nothing that needs my immediate attention. My busy brain would kick into gear those times, trying to kickstart anxiety over the fact that I was just sitting there.
I am working to reconcile my busyness with this lack of deadlines. I am trying to actively enjoy, rather than making a show of tolerating, this less frantic pace. I still have a move thousands of miles away to arrange. I still have legal wrangling to deal with. I still have a book and family that needs my attention. That is more than enough right now.
I am an example of the saying “There’s no road map to success.” I posted earlier about how I wrote the proposal for my book Sew Witchy. It was accepted by the first publisher I submitted to. That’s not the way it usually works out and I found myself caught off guard. Once I got over the surprise of Llewellyn Worldwide‘s acceptance, I realized I needed to get started on finding an agent.
I have experience with publishing contracts, but I wasn’t under any illusion that I would be able to negotiate a contract on my own. Also, I want to have a writing career, and having an agent will help with that. Finding an agent now would help with both those issues. And, I figured, having a contract in hand would make it much easier to attract an agent. So, much sooner than I had expected, I found myself once again engaging in caffeine-fueled Google searching. Continue reading Sew Witchy: Finding an Agent
When I decided to try to find a publisher for my book, Sew Witchy (née Sew Craft) I had a vague idea of what I was doing. A few year prior I had done a round of submissions on a fantasy novel. I knew writing a nonfiction proposal would be a different process, so I did what I always do: turned to Google. There is a wealth of information out there on what shouldgo intoa nonfictionproposal. Most of it talks about what information to include and how to organize it. Not many have actual samples of actual proposals. I spent several caffeine-fueled days researching comparable titles, market demographics and making notes of those points I thought were the most important take-aways from the book. What I ended up with was this: Continue reading Sew Witchy: Pitching the Book
” … it is important to keep in mind the Aristotelian notion that ‘nature abhors a vacuum.’ When we have emptied a space of that which once occupied it, if we aren’t intentional about how we want it refilled, we are simply leaving things up to chance. So after intentionally clearing a space, it is just as important to be intentional about the energies that will fill the area.” — Clearing Spaces, Khi Armand, p. 28
I can’t believe it is April already. January seemed to drag on forever, and now it is Spring (well, in theory, it’s still occasionally snowing and cold here). I spent much of the last three months waiting on one thing or another, working towards deadline after deadline. Now, with the last deadline almost here, I have a moment to catch my breath.
My house is still working through foreclosure. I’ve made plans to move in June, presuming I can get things settled on the custody of my daughter. By the time of my hearing later this month I’ll have spent nearly $4000 on legal fees to sort things out. It might end up costing me even more and drag on past June. I’ve contingency plans for housing in case that happens.
The housing and custody issues have only occupied 3/4 of my time. The rest has been spent on my book. The publisher, Llewellyn, has given it a new name: Sew Witchy. I spent most of February and March making edits. I added a whole new section on sewing basics, including descriptions of various stitches use throughout the book. My editor also requested that I add a few more projects so I spent several weeks buried in mountains of muslin to make a robe and hooded cape pattern.
It’s eye-opening to write about basic sewing stuff when I’ve been sewing for so long. Stopping and having to describe things that I do automatically now required a lot of effort on my part. Fortunately, my editor is a self-proclaimed sewing newbie, so she pointed out all the spots that needed expansion. Even so, I spent a lot of time second-guessing my writing, wondering if I was explaining things adequately.
This week I’m busy taking the last of the photos for the book. I understand now why so many sewing books rely on illustrations rather than photos for step-by-step instructions. You don’t have to deal with lighting or fabric that won’t lie flat or wrinkles that won’t release no matter how much you press them. I have an even greater respect for people who can work a camera now.
I’ll be posting over the next couple of weeks about the book. I figured people might be interested in reading the proposal I sent out when I was looking for a publisher, and how I got my agent. There will also be more customer profiles and book reviews and sewing weirdness.