VikingDad Pro-Tip #3 (Yes, and…)

One of the things I’ve learned from interactive and improvisational theatre is the rule of “Yes, and…” as opposed to “No, this…”.  This works for children at play as well.  Kids have an expansive imagination that doesn’t adhere to many rules, if any, since they’ve not had the experience to apply them. That means they think of things that are hilariously inappropriate to any laws of science we know. Encourage this.  Instead of saying, “No, Boba Fett can’t wear Princess Leia hair, have Han Solo as a boyfriend and won’t be able to fly in the McGonagall dress using his jet pack” say, “Yeah, that’s pretty cool, and how about giving him a purple lightsaber” or something to that effect.  It will help both avoid a potential argument AND help the child feel you’re on the same page.   Also, as an addendum, when your child does say, “No, that won’t work…” ask why.  Encourage them to also embrace the “Yes, and…”